I fell in
love with my wife Beth in the late 1970s when I first observed her patient,
gentle manner as a “teacher/counselor” who worked with people with
developmental disabilities. Many people admired her and assumed she must have
great patience to do the work she did. I know now that being married to me was
a much greater test of her patience. And I’m happy to report that she’s passed
that test with flying colors.
After more
than three decades of marriage, we’re still together, sorting out how best to
love one another. My wife often knows what’s best for me before I do, and of
course, I believe I know what’s best for my wife. Often, she’ll suggest
something, and I’ll follow — initially as a courtesy to her, but
ultimately for my own benefit.
For example,
I agreed to help her lose weight by walking with her every day. She understood
I’d be more motivated to help her lose weight, which she barely needed, rather
than try to lose weight for myself, which I greatly needed. Many years later and
60 pounds lighter, I’ve now (mostly) embraced the habit of walking daily. Whenever
I don’t maintain my daily habit, Beth knows my life is out of balance.
She has the
balance gene. I still find joy in imbalance. After the joyride is over, though,
I reluctantly acknowledge the benefit of finding balance and peace. In keeping
with her balanced life, Beth now is trained as a yoga teacher. She wants to help
others find comfort with their minds and bodies through yoga. More power to
her.
So thank you,
Beth. I love you, and I accept you as my personal savior. (I’d like to offer an
apology to my brother-in-law Brent, who created the concept of the Weegar women
as personal saviors. I stole it, but acknowledge it.)
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Rose
in the Garden by Karla Bonoff
There’s a rose in the
garden
It will bloom if you’re sure
That you pay close attention
But leave it room
It will bloom if you’re sure
That you pay close attention
But leave it room
I know your heart can
be opened
And like the rose, it will bloom
If I pay close attention
But leave you room
And like the rose, it will bloom
If I pay close attention
But leave you room
Chorus
I'm not telling any lies now
I need you
To know how
I think I can see how to let you grow
I've got to let you go
I'm not telling any lies now
I need you
To know how
I think I can see how to let you grow
I've got to let you go
That's my face in the
mirror
It's sometimes you that I see
We've been here for so long now
I see your soul in me
It's sometimes you that I see
We've been here for so long now
I see your soul in me
Chorus
Cause there’s a rose
in the garden
It will bloom if you’re sure
That you pay close attention
But leave it room
It will bloom if you’re sure
That you pay close attention
But leave it room
Rose in the Garden by Karla Bonoff
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